Setting Up CARP
You need the sysctls
$ sysctl net.inet.carp.allow
net.inet.carp.allow=1
$ sysctl net.inet.carp
net.inet.carp.allow=1
net.inet.carp.preempt=0
net.inet.carp.log=0
net.inet.carp.arpbalance=0
to let the magic work, we need
$ sudo sysctl net.inet.carp.preempt=1